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10 Signs He’s Not Boyfriend Material, Stop Wasting Your Time

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So you’re dating this guy. He’s cool. You like him. He’s attractive. He’s seems nice. He’s tall. He’s the whole package. You can see a future with him. But before you make it official, read this first. Here are 10 signs that he’s not boyfriend material. And you should cut your losses before you’re way too deep in love. Save the tears and get out NOW!

1. He puts his needs first

It’s always about him. Him, him, him, and only him. He doesn’t consider your feelings. He doesn’t consider your thoughts. He doesn’t come chasing after you. He easily lets you go. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself. You might think he’s playing hard to get. He’s not. He just doesn’t care about you. He’s only out there to fulfill his needs. The relationship is about him. Not you and him together.

2. He doesn’t ease your doubts

A man that cares about his woman is willing to ease her doubts no matter what. If she’s worried, he should be like, “Baby, it’s alright, it’ll be okay.” It’s not like you need him to comfort you, but a man that loves you should go out of his way to soothe your doubts just because he wants to make you happy.

3. He doesn’t compliment you

He never compliments you when he sees you. Like, “Hey, babe. You look beautiful today.”, or “Nice haircut”. Someone that is interested in you will notice changes in your physical appearance. That means he has his eyes on you.

4. He’s not sure about labels

When you ask him what you two are, he should be able to communicate with you easily about this. Any guy that has an issue with putting a label on ‘what you two are’, doesn’t truly see a future with you. Labels are everywhere. Boyfriend and girlfriend. My woman and my man. Husband and wife. If he wanted to make you his, he would gladly do so. Don’t be in an undefined relationship. You deserve more respect than that!

5. He doesn’t respect your boundaries

When you say no to an activity, and he keeps pressuring you to do that particular activity you’re not comfortable with, he’s not the one. A guy that cares about you respects your space and boundaries. A good example is sex. A guy that loves you is willing to wait until you are ready. If not, lose him.

6. He runs away when there’s conflict

Every relationship will have problems. Communication is one of the most important factors to a healthy relationship. If he avoids conflict, don’t wait around for him. He’s a lost cause. Find someone that’s man enough to talk to you when things are rough. He should love you during the good and bad times. Choose a man that sticks around.

7. He doesn’t introduce you to family and friends

Family and friends are important. If he doesn’t introduce you to his close friends or his family, that’s a red flag. He’s trying to hide you from the world. He’s not proud to be with you. No one wants to be placed in a situation like this. Leave now.

8. He never talks about the future

He never mentions anything about the future. When you ask him about the future, it’s about ‘cruising through life’, ‘living in the present’, and ‘let’s just have fun’. There should be conversations about the future, and they should include you. If that never happens, there is no future. If there is no future, there is no plan or goal. You are wasting your time.

9. He’s not understanding

A good man understands his woman. Or at least he tries to. He’s patient and kind towards her. He’s open-minded to what she has to say without judgment.

10. He never takes you out

When you’re on a date, and the date is always at his place or his *cough* bedroom, think twice about making this guy your boyfriend. A guy that takes his woman out wants to show her off to the world. If not, he’s just hiding you out of embarassment or using you.

5 Signs He’s Not Right For You

5 Facts About Me You Didn’t Know

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I decided to compile a list of 5 facts about me. Just for fun. I thought I’d share something about myself. To take a break from writing about beauty and health care products. Just something new. I hope you enjoy this. Thank you for reading. 🙂

#1. I love music

Music is a huge part of my life. When I was a child, my grandma would tell this story where I would keep singing day and night. I was pretty much unstoppable, haha. I love my grandma. ♥ I love singing. It continued throughout my childhood. I started writing lyrics and poems when I was 13 years old. I decided to teach myself the guitar at the age of 14 or 15 years old (somewhere around there). I locked myself in my room and learned by myself. I dedicated hours playing guitar. I enjoyed it. My fingers would be so sore, but it was worth it. My mom thought something was wrong with me. Nothing was wrong with me. I found my passion. It was music. I begged my parents for voice lessons. That’s all I wanted for my birthday, and that’s what they gave me. I ended up doing recitals. I was very shy though. It was hard for me to open up. I didn’t truly open up until later on in life. Music became a way of life. A way to express myself. My emotions.

Every morning, I turn on some music while I’m getting ready and sing along to it. I play it when I’m showering. I sing in the shower, lol. There’s never a time when there isn’t music on. It really eases my mind and makes me happy. I’m a huge sucker for sappy songs. Songs about love. Songs about depression and heartbreak. Everything that makes your eyes red with tears running down your face. Over-dramatic songs that breaks your soul. I love it. I find a lot of that type of music easy to relate to. Music with raw emotion makes the best music.

#2. My favorite romantic film is The Notebook

Even though I’m more into thriller and horror flicks, I must say, The Notebook is my favorite romantic film of all time. It gives me hope that there is such a thing as true love. I do believe in ‘The One’ and having a ‘Soulmate’. Movies like these keeps that faith burning alive.

Have some faith. ♥

One of my favorite scenes from the film is when Allie and Noah breaks up. Allie goes,

“You know what? I’m gonna do it! It’s over. Okay? It’s over.”

“Go!… No, no, just wait a minute, we’re not really breaking up are we? Come on. This is just a fight we’re having and tomorrow will be like it never happened right?”

I like it because it’s very relatable. I think anyone that has been in an intense, deep, committed relationship has had that type of experience before. We are blinded by love and what we are feeling in the moment just comes out in an unfortunate way.

#3. I was a marathon runner

I was one. I spent years accumulating miles. I’m not talking about 6 miles per day. I’m talking about 100+ miles per week. I still can’t believe how I managed to do that along with my work hours. But I did it. It was fun. It was thrilling. It put me out of my element. I was happy. I ran through thunderstorms. I ran through the snow and on ice. I did it all. Once I hit runner’s high, nothing could ever stop me. I just kept going. Nowadays, I’ve given up my marathon lifestyle. It puts a ton of stress on my body. I do workout, but I don’t run that much anymore. Only a few times a week with lots of rest days. I try my best to eat healthy during the week. I do indulge once in a while and treat myself. Life’s too short to worry. Enjoy yourself. 🙂

#4. I’m a vegetarian

I was vegan for 3 years, but I went back to being a vegetarian. At this point in my life, being a vegetarian is what it is. Maybe in the future I’ll go back to vegan. I know vegan isn’t a diet. It’s a lifestyle. I just wanted to put that out there, so no one comes at me with the, “It’s not a diet BS.” The burning question is, “Why am I a vegetarian?” People have asked me this a lot. They’re oh-so-curious about it. Most people I have met are not vegan or vegetarian. Here’s my answer.

The reason why I went vegetarian in the first place was for my skin. When I was eating meat and dairy products, my skin was very bad. It kept getting worse and worse. Once I cut meat and dairy products out, my skin improved. Yep, I went vegetarian due to skin problems.

BUT!

That doesn’t mean I don’t care about the welfare of animals and the environment. I do. I love that I am putting my part into helping animals and the environment. But, but, you’re vegetarian? How about eggs and dairy? Isn’t that animal exploitation? I am aware. The reason why I went back to being vegetarian is because it was difficult to eat at family gatherings and going out. It’s not like I eat cheese, yogurt, and eggs every single day. I have noticed a difference in my skin from eating vegan vs vegetarian. It’s clear that I shouldn’t consume too many dairy products. It’s really just an option, so I won’t go bonkers when eating with others.

I do think the world would be a better place if people went vegan or at least vegetarian. ✌

#5. I love to travel

Travelling to me is an escape from the boring, routine way of life. I would drop everything and anything in a heartbeat to go to a place that’s not the norm without regrets. I love being in a new environment. I love meeting new people. I love enriching myself with new experiences and learning something new. I love it when life happens unexpectingly (in a positive way). It brings a lot of excitement and anticipation. It really makes life worth living for. I think it’s awesome.

Those are 5 facts about me. Go ahead and share 5 facts about yourself! 🙂🙂🙂🙂

Love, Jen

© Jennifer Nguyen